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I talk a lot about personal responsibility, about how there is so much you can do to change where you are in life, and the extent of peace and joy you choose.
However, it is also true that you may be walking it well, your eyes on God, and your heart fully committed to Him, doing everything you know to eliminate any sin, unforgiveness, disrespect, and bitterness out of your own heart… and yet still remain in a hostile, heartbreaking place.
I don’t feel any different than you. Not more courageous. Not any wiser. Certainly not more intelligent. Just a normal girl trying to survive what life throws at her. Here are some thoughts I wrote to help stay focused.
She’s angry at her husband. She’s angrier at God, for not protecting her, not rescuing her, not fixing it. And she hates who she’s becoming. If that’s you, Scripture has a whole genre for what you’re feeling. It’s called lament.
You learned to dim. To soften the opinion, shrink the win, let him tell the story. You were told it was humility. It wasn’t. It was a safety strategy, and the strategy that kept you safe will keep you small.
I asked, “How could I have become so detestable in his eyes?” Not because I believed it. Because I knew I wasn’t, and he insisted I was. Here’s what standing firm means when what you know and what you’re told collide.
“Extend him some grace.” You’ve heard it from a pulpit, a friend, maybe from him. I wrote this post in 2013 about the grace that rescued me. Here’s what I didn’t know to write then: what grace was never meant to cover.