Identity Recovery Group · Faith-based group coaching for women recovering from emotional abuse and coercive control
Everyone has an opinion about your marriage. Nobody's asked about you.
Stay. Leave. Pray harder. Submit more. Get out tonight. You’ve heard every version, and every one of them skips the woman standing in the middle of it. This group starts with her.
Watch: what this group is, and who it’s for
You didn't lose yourself. You were pushed out.
“You’ve changed.” Yeah. You have. And somebody keeps saying it like it’s a charge against you.
Here’s what actually happened. You didn’t wander off. You were pushed out of yourself one step at a time: one conceded point, one swallowed sentence, one “let’s just keep the peace.” It came through coercion, through confusion, and through a theology that somehow always found you to be the problem. Now you’re standing in a life that doesn’t quite feel like yours, wondering whether the woman you used to be is still in there.
She is. And we know how to find her.
Not a stay-or-go program
This isn't about whether you stay. It's about whether you're still in there.
Here’s the bad advice from both sides.
One camp hands you a verse and tells you to stay put and be sweeter. The other hands you a checklist and tells you to get out, as if you already have the money, the custody plan, the clarity, and a place to land. Both are making your decision for you, and both skip the real problem.
The real problem is that you can’t make a wise decision about anything from a self you can’t find.
So we don’t do the deciding. That’s yours, and that’s the whole point. Our work is building the woman who gets to decide: footing back, voice back, discernment sharp, faith her own again. That holds whether you’re staying, leaving, already gone, or stuck in the in-between nobody wants to talk about.
Staying isn't the win. Leaving isn't the win. Getting yourself back is the win.
A small room. Real work. No performing.
The Identity Recovery Group is virtual group coaching for women dealing with the aftermath of emotional abuse, coercive control, narcissistic relationship patterns, and spiritual bypassing. It runs in three cohorts, so you’re in the room with women in the same season you’re in. For women whose marriage has already ended, Surviving the Unwanted Divorce is its own 11-week group, led by Lauren Rose.
It isn’t a support group where everyone shares and nothing moves, and it isn’t a marriage class. It’s definitely not another room where you have to convince someone it was really that bad. It’s for women who are done being told what to think and ready to start knowing what they know.
Eight women, max.
Small enough that you can’t hide, and deep enough that you won’t want to.
Faith-centered, not faith-weaponized.
Here, Scripture is an anchor, not a muzzle. We pair biblical truth with evidence-informed trauma recovery. No spiritual bypassing dressed up as healing.
Specialists, not generalists.
Your coaches are trained in coercive control, attachment trauma, emotional abuse and neglect, narcissistic dynamics, and the tangled place where faith and relational harm meet. You won’t spend six sessions explaining what gaslighting is.
Built for your real life.
You meet on Zoom from anywhere, with session recordings and a private community between sessions. The hard stuff doesn’t wait for group night.
You shouldn't have to translate your life for the room.
The worst thing about most groups is that you spend half the session explaining your situation to women living a completely different one. So we don’t mix them. Each cohort is built around where you actually are right now, so the woman across the screen already gets it.
The Identity Recovery Group
16 weeks · $1,600 · three cohorts
“Is it really that bad?”
Totally Confused
You’re just waking up, and you don’t have words for it yet. Every time you’ve tried to name it, you got denial, deflection, or a theological argument for why your feelings are the problem. You aren’t confused because you’re incapable of clarity. You’re confused because you’ve been living inside a system built to disorient you. This cohort gives you language, mirrors, and a place to start trusting what you already know.
“If it were that bad, you’d have left.”
Trying to Stay Well Where You Are
That’s a sentence from someone who’s never had to do the math. You haven’t left, and you may not. You’re trying to hold your soul together in a situation that keeps pressing on it. We’re not here to talk you into staying or out the door. We’re here so you stop disappearing, and keep your sense of self, your spiritual footing, and your discernment whatever your circumstances look like right now.
“Just get through it. You can fall apart later.”
Separating or Divorcing
Later never comes. You’re in the middle of it, with lawyers, logistics, kids’ schedules, and a man who may be rewriting the story in real time. You need footing now, not when the paperwork clears. This cohort is for staying clear-headed and keeping yourself intact while everything around you is being renegotiated.
Its own program · 11 weeks · $1,100 · Led by Lauren Rose
Surviving the Unwanted Divorce
“At least it’s over.”
Over isn’t the same as okay. Reconciliation isn’t on the table, and maybe you weren’t the one who took it off. The grief, the disorientation, and the who-am-I-now didn’t get the memo. This group is for rebuilding from the rubble: getting back your agency, your voice, and your ability to live fully in the life that’s actually in front of you.
Lauren has walked this road herself. She came out of an abusive marriage and rebuilt her life as a single mom, and now she leads other women through the same rebuild. You can keep going after the 11 weeks.
What comes up in the room, the things nobody at church knows what to do with:
Whatever your story holds, you bring it here without a lecture attached.
You don't need more insight. You need footing.
You’ve read the books, and you could define gaslighting in your sleep. Knowing what happened still hasn’t given you your life back, because information isn’t footing.
Naming: call it what it is.
The trauma, the coercion, the theology that kept you quiet. You find words for what’s been happening and stop arguing with your own perceptions. You tell your story in a confidential room where nobody asks you to prove it.
Training: build the muscle.
You learn the difference between self-protective and self-strong, and you build guardrails instead of walls. You work on the shame and self-doubt that were installed, not native. You practice discernment you can actually use on a random Tuesday.
Creating: live from it.
You bring agency into your actual days. You connect with people wisely and deftly, without letting their brokenness define you. Your relationship with God becomes yours, not borrowed from whoever used it against you.
"We have this hope as an anchor for the soul, firm and secure."
Hebrews 6:19
Somebody has probably told you that with more faith, you’d feel better about all this, as if your pain were a faith deficit.
An anchor isn't a mood. It's a fixed point that holds when the water won't.
Can grief be carried and joy still be found? Yes. Can your soul find rest even while harm is still present? Yes. You don’t get there by bypassing what’s real. You get there by walking straight into it with the right people beside you.
Led by women who've seen this pattern thousands of times
Sharmen Kimbrough, MA
Founder, LiveFound
For more than a decade, Sharmen worked alongside Dr. David Hawkins at the Marriage Recovery Center, where she developed the women’s programs. One thing became very clear: healing isn’t just cognitive. Your soul also needs space to process and integrate what happened. You already know what you’re dealing with. This is the space to decide what to do with it.
Lauren Rose
Identity Recovery Coach
Lauren holds a degree in Christian Counseling, completed 100 hours of domestic abuse advocacy training, and served as Communications Coordinator for Called to Peace Ministries, an international faith-based advocacy organization. Her specialties are domestic, spiritual, and emotional abuse; religious cult recovery; and divorce recovery.
"When I first came into this group, I could barely think straight. Sharmen helped me find the words to say what my heart needed to say... and then the courage to show up better in my own life."
Former participant · Trying to Stay well
"What if getting help makes things worse at home?"
That’s a fair fear. Somebody may already be telling you that getting help is disloyal or divisive, or proof that you’re the problem. Or there might be retribution for “telling others about your dirty laundry.”
So let’s be precise. A woman who knows who she is isn’t a threat to anything healthy. We don’t coach you toward an outcome, and we don’t spend the session trashing your husband. We help you see clearly and act from your own convictions.
And if someone else controls the money, or makes getting help cost you, tell us. For women in that position, there’s a confidential way to cover the cost of the group. Ask us privately at info@livefound.org.
The details
Identity Recovery Group (any cohort)
16 sessions · 32 coaching hours · $1,600
Surviving the Unwanted Divorce (led by Lauren Rose)
11 sessions · 22 coaching hours · $1,100
- 2-hour facilitated sessions on Zoom
- 4 to 8 women per group, private and closed
- Digital workbook and weekly assignments
- Session recordings and a private online community
- Trauma-informed, solution-focused, faith-centered
Upcoming groups
Pick your room and tap Register. Your group comes with you to the sign-up form.
IRG · Totally Confused
Forming now · Day and time set when the group fills
IRG · Trying to Stay Well Where You Are
Forming now · Mondays, 10am–12pm ET
IRG · Separating or Divorcing
Oct 8, 2026 ·Thursdays 6-8pm ET
Surviving the Unwanted Divorce · with Lauren Rose
ASAP ·Tuesdays, 2:30-4:30ET
Not sure which fits, or need a different time?
Help me choose · I'll share my ideal day and time
Start where you actually are
You don’t have to be ready for everything at once, and anyone who tells you otherwise is selling urgency.
Step 1 · Free
Not sure what's happening yet? Start free.
The Emotional Check-In Worksheet has ten levels and no commitment.
Step 2 · $97
Ready to build a foundation? Go at your own pace.
Boundaries: Defining Your Sacred Space is a four-week, self-paced course with lifetime access. Many women take it before or alongside the group.
Step 3 · The group
Ready to go deeper with women who get it?
That’s the Identity Recovery Group.
Want the full picture first?
The Program Guide maps all sixteen weeks: what we work through, what you walk away with, and what it costs.
Stop living lost. Start living found.
Survival mode got sold to you as faithfulness. That looks like getting through today just to start over tomorrow, with every relationship kept shallow because you’re working so hard to hide how lost you are. Living found is different. It means knowing who you are, feeling what you feel, and moving through your days with an agency nobody gets to take from you again.