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Why You Keep Scrolling — And What You’re Actually Hungry For

Something brought you here today. Maybe it was the title. Maybe it was a quiet pull you couldn’t quite name. But I want you to notice that something in you responded — and I don’t think that was an accident. That small movement toward something real? That’s the part of you that already knows something needs to change. And she’s been trying to get your attention for a while now.
Here’s what I keep seeing — not just culturally, but in the women who come to me after years of feeling like they’ve lost the thread of themselves. There’s this exhaustion underneath everything. And when you dig into it, what you find is this: they’ve been outsourcing their interior life for so long that they don’t know how to come home to themselves anymore.
I think a lot of us are there. Even if we wouldn’t say it that way.
So here’s the question I want to leave at the beginning of this piece, before we go anywhere else:
How much longer are you willing to stay lost?

Broken Identity: Trauma as an Attachment Wound

Trauma isn’t just a wound—it’s a sneaky saboteur of our deepest connections. Dive into how attachment injuries shape our lives and discover the gutsy path to healing through love and vulnerability.

Dealing with the Emotions of Sexual Betrayal

When betrayal breaks your heart, it’s easy to wonder if you were ever enough. But healing begins when you stop carrying shame that was never yours—and start expecting the redemption story only God can write.

Healing and Wholeness after Escaping Abuse

You cannot live (or love) well if you are not well. Your journey to healing begins with finding your own footing to think, speak, act, and live authentically no matter who agrees.

Narcissistic Victim Syndrome: Overview

Our working definition of emotional abuse is that it is an ongoing pattern of selfish, destructive behaviors used to gain and maintain control over their spouse for one’s own benefit at the expense of their spouse. Underlying this pattern of behavior is a strong sense of entitlement to use others regardless of the cost to them. Narcissistic, emotional abuse eventually culminates in a very complicated case of un-health. The soul-crushing experience of being dismissed, unheard and unseen, belittled, and silenced culminates in becoming a dead (wo)man walking.

Hostage to The Misplaced Responsibility

I’m going to make a statement that might initially cause a strong reaction in you, but please hear me out. Ultimately, my goal is to find that precious, sacred, powerful point at which we become intentional about living, even in the midst of a destructive, stifling world. It is at that point where we have the God-given agency to make a choice about our next step, and about who we are and how we are showing up. The hardest question to answer is: How?

Rightfully Angry

For both men and women, anger is a key building block in their wall of self-protection. It supports defense mechanisms and fuels the façades we wear. Anger can make it very difficult to be authentic and connect to your spouse. The only connection that can happen is to whatever is in front of your shield of self-protection, which is often a very shallow, non-vulnerable self. In being self-protective, you disable the very thing your heart craves: authentic connection.

Abuse as Misplaced Responsibility

Many of my clients start their story by saying, “It has taken me way too long to get the courage to speak up about this. I am so ashamed of letting myself stay in this abuse for so long!” They often feel a sense of misplaced responsibility, thinking they could have have seen and stopped it. Or that they should have been better, sexier, more fun, a better housekeeper, more submissive, more respectful. They often believe that if they were just less selfish, they could have made him happy. “If I had just done it differently, I could have figured this out and fixed it.”

Denying the Reality of Spiritual Abuse

We have a great propensity to deny what we don’t want to see. It’s often hard to imagine anyone being as cruel as the spouse you hear about in your clients’ experiences. When this person is someone you also know from your community or church, the denial can be fierce.