Real change doesn’t announce itself — it leaks out in the tense someone uses, in what they do when no one’s applauding, and especially in what happens the moment they don’t get their way. Here are seven measurable signs to watch for, plus what to do with a heart that’s gone quiet while you wait.
If you’ve ever said, “I don’t know who I am anymore,” or wondered how to feel normal again after surviving chaos, confusion, and loss in your relationships, this post is for you. Discover three powerful steps to reclaim your identity, protect your soul, and start healing—whether the relationship improves or not.
Trauma isn’t just a wound—it’s a sneaky saboteur of our deepest connections. Dive into how attachment injuries shape our lives and discover the gutsy path to healing through love and vulnerability.
When you dismiss your needs, mute your longings, or diminish your gifts, you erode the very foundation of your being. This isn’t about fleeting exhaustion—it’s about a soul losing its bearings. Without self-care, your love for others becomes a fragile thread, stretched to breaking, unable to hold the weight of authenticity.
If you’ve lived through abuse, you know the grief of feeling invisible, worthless, unwanted, silenced, and abandoned… Our Lord Jesus longs to sit with us in the inner voids of pain to speak His truth and love, bringing restoration to our sense of identity and belonging.
Resilience isn’t just about bouncing back—it’s about creatively transforming challenges into something meaningful. True resilience requires engaging with what you have, thinking outside the box, and building something valuable from life’s setbacks. Whether in relationships, personal growth, or life transitions, resilience empowers you to move forward with intention. Discover how to cultivate resilience in a way that brings purpose and possibility to your journey.
After separating from domestic abuse, it is normal to feel and array of conflicting, emotions. Each stage of healing comes with its own challenges and experiences. Read more for examples of emotions you may encounter.
If you’ve found your way here, it’s likely that you’re feeling discouraged, angry, or just plain exhausted. Maybe you’re tired of being used or walked over. Perhaps you’re feeling lonely, scared, or unsure of your own instincts. You might even be questioning your sanity. Whether you’re desperately flailing or simply in need of better grounding, you’re not alone.
You were told the codependency was yours — a flaw you brought in with you. But compliance and hyper-independence are both doors out of the same house. They are not who you are. They are what you learned to survive.
You cannot live (or love) well if you are not well. Your journey to healing begins with finding your own footing to think, speak, act, and live authentically no matter who agrees.
In this part of our series on Narcissistic Victim Syndrome, we focus on recovery. Standard, run-of-the-mill approaches are potentially dangerous for couples stuck in power and control cycles. As coaches and counselors, we must protect the victim from further harm and work to potentially bring them to a place of collaboration. The dominating partner must become connection-oriented before collaboration can occur. Which means that couples work is not the first step.
o one gets through life unscathed by harm and trauma. We live in a world that is marred and broken. Nothing is truly as it has been written upon our hearts to be. At every step, we have learned. Something that distinguishes us from the rest of creation is the ability to project our learning to determine our next steps, to create, plan, and build our future. As we mature, what we’ve learned through extrinsic memory (those things we had to pay attention to and concentrate on to learn) tends to become aligned with our interests, curiosities, and passions. We pay attention to what is relevant, those things we believe will be useful and helpful and successful for us.
I think what I hear between the lines is the struggle between what you “should” do based on your Christian background and what your gut is telling you to do to protect yourself from being further hurt and move on with your life.
Having been mentored through some bottom-of-the-pit seasons of my own life, I’ve realized how powerful it is to have someone in my corner, encouraging, stretching, pushing, and holding me accountable to follow through with the hard steps I knew I needed to take.
Resilience isn’t a passive bounce-back. It is the result of how you take what you’ve got to work with, no matter how insignificant it might seem, and make something of it.