After separating from domestic abuse, it is normal to feel and array of conflicting, emotions. Each stage of healing comes with its own challenges and experiences. Read more for examples of emotions you may encounter.
When things have gotten dire enough to seek help, it’s often hard to know what to count on from your spouse regarding the future of your relationship. You desperately want to plant your feet into something solid and reliable. Therefore, it makes complete sense that you’d want to know if the changes being made are “real.” So, how can you tell?
I think what I hear between the lines is the struggle between what you “should” do based on your Christian background and what your gut is telling you to do to protect yourself from being further hurt and move on with your life.
God loves you too much to let you go through the rest of your life putting your hope in a marriage idol, even if that idol was designed to be a powerful reflection, and experience, of Him.
I don’t feel any different than you. Not more courageous. Not any wiser. Certainly not more intelligent. Just a normal girl trying to survive what life throws at her. Here are some thoughts I wrote to help stay focused.
If you’ve ever asked yourself, “Why would I even want them back?” — you’re not alone, and you’re not wrong to ask it. This is one of the most common questions I hear, in some version, from almost everyone I work with who’s facing the possibility of reconciliation after real harm. The specifics vary. The question underneath doesn’t: What’s actually the point of staying open to someone who hurt me this deeply?
Everyone has a word for the step you’re considering. Crazy. Prideful. Rebellious. Abigail heard all of them too, and Scripture calls what she did good judgment. Here’s how to tell crazy from courageous when you’re the one being called crazy.