Led by Lauren Rose · 11-week group coaching for women
Surviving the Unwanted Divorce
“At least it’s over.” Over isn’t the same as okay.
Here’s everything we work through in eleven weeks: the map, the lies we take apart, and who you get to be on the other side of it.
11
weekly sessions
2 hrs
live on Zoom
8
women, max
1
book we read together
Who this is for
Women whose marriage has ended, or is ending, without their permission. Everyone around you seems to want this wrapped up by now. Your grief didn’t get the memo, and neither did the questions about God, your worth, and what happens next. This group gives all of it room.
What happened to you is part of your story. It doesn't get the final word.
The map
Eleven weeks, at a glance
One chapter a week, read before group. Three phases: tell the truth about what happened, put down what was never yours to carry, and start building from here.
Telling the truth
1 · Naming the Loss
Weeks 1–2
1Grief, shock & betrayal
2What the Bible actually says about divorce
2 · Untangling God from the Accusation
Weeks 3–4
3“God hates divorce,” in context
4Difficult vs. destructive: rescue, not just restoration
Releasing
3 · Putting Down What Was Never Yours
Weeks 5–7
5The “why” questions & self-blame
6Radical acceptance
7Taking the high ground, without abandoning yourself
4 · Forgiveness Without Pretending
Weeks 8–9
8Why forgiveness feels so unfair
9You’re not a forgiveness failure
Rebuilding
5 · Building What Comes Next
Weeks 10–11
10Who you’re becoming
11Your next chapter
Inside each arc
The lie we take apart, the work we do, and what you walk away with
Arc 1 · Weeks 1–2 · Telling the truth
Naming the Loss
What you've been told
“At least it’s over. You should be relieved.”
What's true
You can grieve someone who’s still alive. Losing the future you planned is a real loss, and it gets real room here.
What we work through
Grief that goes beyond the marriage itself The shock of “this is really my life now” Betrayal that isn’t only infidelity What the betrayal made you believe about yourself Messages from church, family & culture Survival strategies that stopped serving you Who you were before this told you who you were
→You walk away able to separate his choices from your worth.
Arc 2 · Weeks 3–4 · Telling the truth
Untangling God from the Accusation
What you've been told
“God hates divorce.”
What's true
God grieves what destroys a marriage: betrayal, abandonment, harm. He doesn’t condemn the woman it happened to.
What we work through
Malachi 2:16, read in context Conviction vs. condemnation A difficult marriage vs. a destructive one Why emotional abuse & coercive control get minimized Rescue, not only restoration What real repentance and change require Faithfulness that isn’t “keep it intact at all costs”
→A God who sees the whole truth of your story, including the parts nobody else saw.
Arc 3 · Weeks 5–7 · Releasing
Putting Down What Was Never Yours
What you've been told
“If you had just tried harder, it would have worked.”
What's true
You can’t be the solution to someone else’s internal problem. You were never supposed to be.
What we work through
The “why” questions, and disappointment with God What responsibility is actually yours Loving someone vs. carrying them Radical acceptance (it isn’t approval) Boundaries, including with yourself Grieving the future you thought you’d have Responding with integrity, not just “being nice” When saying less is the stronger response
→Your energy back from what you can’t control, aimed at what you can build.
Arc 4 · Weeks 8–9 · Releasing
Forgiveness Without Pretending
What you've been told
“If you’d really forgiven him, it wouldn’t still hurt.”
What's true
Returning pain isn’t proof you failed. It’s something that still needs healing.
What we work through
Why forgiveness feels so unfair Forgiveness with boundaries Forgiveness, trust & access are three different things Justice vs. revenge Healing that doesn’t wait for his apology When “I thought you forgave me” is used against you Forgiving the woman who stayed
→Not “this doesn’t hurt anymore,” but “this still matters, and it no longer decides who I am.”
Arc 5 · Weeks 10–11 · Rebuilding
Building What Comes Next
What you've been told
“The best part of your life is behind you now.”
What's true
The question changes from “Why did my life turn out this way?” to “What can I build from here?”
What we work through
Who you’re becoming outside this marriage What you’re ready to release, and to begin Desires that still matter, and new ways to meet them A future that isn’t defined by your divorce
→A life you’re choosing, not just one you’re surviving.
Every single week
How each session works
Read one chapter before group
2-hour live session on Zoom
Lauren's discussion & reflection questions
One truth to carry into your week
A taste of the conversation
The questions nobody else has asked you
Share only what you’re comfortable sharing. There are no right answers. These are a few of the questions we sit with together.
Who were you before this experience began telling you who you were? What part of you still needs permission to stop carrying blame that was never yours? What would healing look like even if he never apologizes? What is one thing you’re ready to release, and one thing you’re ready to begin?
The book we read together
One chapter a week, one honest conversation
We read Lysa TerKeurst’s Surviving an Unwanted Divorce together, a chapter before each session. Bring your own copy. The book opens the subject; the group is where you get to say what it brought up in you, with women who understand.
Still married, and unsure?
You're welcome here
Some questions are written for women still discerning. Nobody will push you toward a decision.
Separated, or in the middle of it?
You need footing now
Not when the paperwork clears. We’ll work with the season you’re actually in.
Already divorced?
Over isn't okay, yet
The grief and the who-am-I-now questions don’t end with the decree. This is where they get room.
Your investment
$1,100
11 sessions · 22 coaching hours · payment plans available
- 2-hour facilitated group sessions, weekly on Zoom
- 4 to 8 women per group, private and closed
- Weekly discussion & reflection questions from Lauren
- Companion book: bring your own copy
- Option to keep going after the 11 weeks
Payment plans
Want to spread it out? Reach out and we’ll set up a plan that works for you.
If someone else controls the money, or makes getting help cost you, tell us. There’s a confidential way to cover the cost of the group. Ask us privately at info@livefound.org.
Who leads it
Lauren Rose has walked this road herself. She came out of an abusive marriage and rebuilt her life as a single mom. She holds a degree in Christian Counseling, completed 100 hours of domestic abuse advocacy training, and served as Communications Coordinator for Called to Peace Ministries. Meet Lauren →
Spots are limited to protect the group
Your future can still be yours.
Eleven weeks. Women who understand. And you, walking out knowing that what happened to you is part of your story, and that it doesn’t get the final word.