Walking in Faith: Embracing Personal Responsibility
I talk a lot about personal responsibility, about how there is so much you can do to change where you are in life, and the extent of peace and joy you choose.
However, it is also true that you may be walking it well, your eyes on God, and your heart fully committed to Him, doing everything you know to eliminate any sin, unforgiveness, disrespect, and bitterness out of your own heart… and yet still remain in a hostile, heartbreaking place.
Facing Accusations and Maintaining Faith
Maybe your husband accuses you of being a hypocritical brow-beater – that he knows who you really are and that God couldn’t possibly be growing or changing you. The “you” he decided no longer fits “him.” Maybe your pastor calls you self-righteous; that you are only acting changed in order to change your marriage, and tells you to stop doing anything blatantly “Christian” so that your husband won’t be offended. He tells you not to read your Bible or pray where he will see you. Don’t talk to your kids about what it means to follow Christ. Don’t point out any sin or brokenness. Just be where you are and wait for God to step in, because God forbid your husband be offended.
Enduring Heartbreak with Faith
You might have been told to just stay in the heartbreak until God steps in. The God you can’t see, can’t feel, and can’t hear. He has seemingly turned His face from your broken heart. The God you are desperately clinging to because something in you knows, despite all the doubt, He really does have the last say.
Trusting God in the Midst of Trials
Yet, God will step in. Everything you are doing to honor God in a time like this is your heart’s deepest surrender and worship. It’s that faith Hebrews talks about, where you believe what you can’t see. It becomes a deep place of abiding in Him you can’t explain to anyone, let alone really understand it yourself. The fabric of who you are becomes woven by His grace. And this changes everything.
Accepting Unresolved Heartbreak
Heartbreak may always be a felt part of your story. Your spouse may still choose to leave, and the reconciliation you were looking for never happen. The pastor may never understand how devastating to your heart his unwise shepherding was. And your children may have to deal with the fallout of divorce on their own faith and relationships for the rest of their lives. So much of life may feel unresolved. But God promises that even then, He will work it all out for His glory and your good.
Continuing in Faith and Trust
So keep praying, keep walking, keep believing. Let God be your life, your joy, your heart’s desire. And watch to see the ways He brings you His love and His peace every day.
Walking in faith is not about having all the answers or seeing immediate results. It’s about trusting in God’s plan, even when the path is unclear and the outcome is uncertain. By staying committed to your faith and letting God guide your steps, you can find peace and strength to endure life’s unfathomable challenges
