Stop Faking Fine: The Truth About Growth and God

Healing doesn’t mean pretending you’re fine. “Stop Faking Fine” explores the messy, sacred process of growth, faith, and recovery from trauma and spiritual bypassing.

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The Slow Climb of Real Growth

Growth is a lot like climbing a mountain. It’s slow, unsteady, and often you can’t see how small steps forward is making any difference at all. But you keep climbing, grabbing the rope, and stepping onto shaky rock and pushing through the hard you feel stretched. You feel tired, but you don’t quit because growth and healing aren’t loud or obvious.

Growth Isn’t Pretty — But God Is Still In It

Let’s be honest — growth doesn’t always look holy. It’s messy. It’s slow. It’s climbing uphill when everything in you wants to quit. You don’t get angel choirs or lightning bolts of breakthrough. You get silence. Sweat. Stretch. But that’s where real transformation happens. If you’ve been through a destructive relationship, religious gaslighting, or spiritual bypassing that told you to “just pray harder,” this encouragement’s for you.

The Quiet Work of Transformation

The life-oriented strivers are quiet, persistent. They’re choosing to show up again and again when it’d be easier to stop. And that choice? It’ll transform you. Even when you can’t see it, you may not realize it, but God is in every step. He’s there with you and your heart aches. He’s steady. When you feel shaken and he’s shaping you with every single effort you make, then one day you pause and you finally see it. Every step mattered.

Every Step Forward Is Building Strength

Every hard thing you pushed through was building something deeper, stronger, more beautiful inside of you. You’re becoming a version of yourself that you didn’t even know existed. You’re experiencing joy and peace and contentment in ways you didn’t even know were possible. That’s why I climb, because it reminds me growth and healing. healing isn’t pretending you’re okay — it’s showing up, raw and real, and letting God meet you there. Every time you choose truth over pretending, that’s growth. Every time you climb when quitting feels easier, that’s freedom.

From Surviving to Becoming

It doesn’t always feel like progress until you stop and see how far you’ve come. Because every step forward is shaking off old chains and reclaiming your soul. You may not see it yet, but you’re not the same person you were when you started. God’s not interested in polished performance — He’s after your becoming.

Keep Going — God’s in the Process

So today. Keep going, keep climbing. Trust the process because every step forward is changing you. It’s making a difference.

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Lauren Rose

Lauren lives life to the fullest, finding deep joy in her faith in Jesus and the goodness of God. She is dedicated to empowering women to embrace their God-given identities and reclaim their joy and fulfillment while discovering their unique life purpose. Whether it’s rediscovering themselves after hardship or uncovering their identity for the first time, Lauren is there to guide them on their transformative journey toward peace, joy, and fulfillment.

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