Healing from Crazy-Making

If you've found your way here, it's likely that you're feeling discouraged, angry, or just plain exhausted. Maybe you're tired of being used or walked over. Perhaps you're feeling lonely, scared, or unsure of your own instincts. You might even be questioning your sanity. Whether you're desperately flailing or simply in need of better grounding, you're not alone.

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Help for the Broken Hearted: Finding Hope and Healing

If you’ve found your way here, it’s likely that you’re feeling discouraged, angry, or just plain exhausted. Maybe you’re tired of being used or walked over. Perhaps you’re feeling lonely, scared, or unsure of your own instincts. You might even be questioning your sanity. Whether you’re desperately flailing or simply in need of better grounding, you’re not alone.

Understanding Your Pain

You may be lost, confused, and alone, grappling with the toxicity or emotional abuse in your relationships. The people you once counted on—friends, family, your church—seem inattentive at best, and downright harmful at worst. You’re struggling to find a safe, solid place to turn to, and that can feel overwhelming.

Crazy-making isn’t a personality clash. It’s one piece of a recognized pattern called coercive control.

Finding Hope in the Chaos

It’s a cliché to say that life doesn’t always turn out as you expect, but it’s a truth we all know too well. Despite our best efforts, there are countless variables beyond our control. The most complicated of these is often the other person in the relationship—someone who, like you, is broken and flawed. Their brokenness combined with yours can create a mess so overwhelming that you forget what you’re even striving for.

When you’re dealing with the trauma of narcissism and emotional abuse, it can feel impossible to navigate the complexities of love and connection. The differences in perceptions, opinions, and desires can make it seem like you’re fighting a losing battle.

Leaning Into Your Life’s Purpose

In the midst of this chaos, it’s crucial to lean into your life’s purpose. Focus on becoming who you were designed, purposed, and called to be. Whether you’re staying in a relationship and longing to make it work, trying to get out for your own well-being, or feeling undecided about your next steps, there is hope and healing to be found.

We’re Here to Help

At LiveFound, inc., we understand the pain and confusion you’re experiencing. We offer virtual coaching to help you find healing and freedom from emotionally and verbally abusive relationships. Whether you’re struggling through separation, divorce, or simply navigating a difficult relationship, we’re here to support you.

Don’t face this journey alone. Let us help you find hope in the chaos and purpose in the mess. Together, we can uncover the healing and life you are longing for.

Key themes in this article: gaslighting & crazy-making, self-trust & discernment, starting over

meet the coach

Sharmen Kimbrough

Sharmen Elaine Kimbrough is an identity strategist and the founder of LiveFound, Inc. She holds a Master's degree in professional counseling and spent more than ten years working alongside Dr. David Hawkins at the Marriage Recovery Center, where she developed and led the women's programs. She helps women recognize emotional abuse, coercive control and spiritual bypassing — and recover a self, and the agency to use it.

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