Cognitive Distortions: How Your Thoughts Might Be Sabotaging Your Relationships

Are your thoughts secretly undermining your relationships? Cognitive distortions—those sneaky, irrational mental habits—could be sparking conflict and distance in your closest bonds. From jumping to conclusions to assuming the worst, discover how to spot these patterns and break free with practical steps and expert guidance.

The Demand of Forgiveness

Forgiveness isn’t their redemption—it’s yours. Explore why demanded forgiveness fails and how real change, not grace, heals broken bonds.

Does Shame Have a Purpose?

Shame is that heavy, sinking feeling that echoes the lie, ‘You are not enough,’ but the truth is, it’s not your identity—it’s an invitation to heal and reclaim your worth.

Processing Trauma & Finding Identity

If you’ve lived through abuse, you know the grief of feeling invisible, worthless, unwanted, silenced, and abandoned… Our Lord Jesus longs to sit with us in the inner voids of pain to speak His truth and love, bringing restoration to our sense of identity and belonging.

What Happens After Separation?

After separating from domestic abuse, it is normal to feel and array of conflicting, emotions. Each stage of healing comes with its own challenges and experiences. Read more for examples of emotions you may encounter.

Are You Giving Permanence to Something That Can Change?

Want to feel a shift in your energy? These questions inspire action rather than frustration. They shift focus from problems to possibilities and create a sense of control over the future.

Healing from Crazy-Making

If you’ve found your way here, it’s likely that you’re feeling discouraged, angry, or just plain exhausted. Maybe you’re tired of being used or walked over. Perhaps you’re feeling lonely, scared, or unsure of your own instincts. You might even be questioning your sanity. Whether you’re desperately flailing or simply in need of better grounding, you’re not alone.

Narcissistic Victim Syndrome: Overview

Our working definition of emotional abuse is that it is an ongoing pattern of selfish, destructive behaviors used to gain and maintain control over their spouse for one’s own benefit at the expense of their spouse. Underlying this pattern of behavior is a strong sense of entitlement to use others regardless of the cost to them. Narcissistic, emotional abuse eventually culminates in a very complicated case of un-health. The soul-crushing experience of being dismissed, unheard and unseen, belittled, and silenced culminates in becoming a dead (wo)man walking.

Hostage to The Misplaced Responsibility

I’m going to make a statement that might initially cause a strong reaction in you, but please hear me out. Ultimately, my goal is to find that precious, sacred, powerful point at which we become intentional about living, even in the midst of a destructive, stifling world. It is at that point where we have the God-given agency to make a choice about our next step, and about who we are and how we are showing up. The hardest question to answer is: How?

What is your bias?

Another nuance impacting attachment is confirmation bias. This might seem a bit random in the context of trauma, but there is a strong correlation between confirmation bias and resistance to change, thus resistance to healing. What we’ve deeply learned, both intrinsically and extrinsically, determines what we seek, expect, and perceive. When there is a gap in our understanding, we fill it in with our own narrative based upon previous learning. Most often we fill in those blanks with negativity and suspicion. Trauma teaches us what to watch for, what to expect, and how to perceive it.