How is God good if He has thrown me in the pit of despair? 

Friend, God sees the bigger picture of our lives. He sees the beginning and the end!

Processing Trauma & Finding Identity

If you’ve lived through abuse, you know the grief of feeling invisible, worthless, unwanted, silenced, and abandoned… Our Lord Jesus longs to sit with us in the inner voids of pain to speak His truth and love, bringing restoration to our sense of identity and belonging.

Staying Intentional When Your Spouse Walks Out

I think what I hear between the lines is the struggle between what you “should” do based on your Christian background and what your gut is telling you to do to protect yourself from being further hurt and move on with your life.

Denying the Reality of Spiritual Abuse

We have a great propensity to deny what we don’t want to see. It’s often hard to imagine anyone being as cruel as the spouse you hear about in your clients’ experiences. When this person is someone you also know from your community or church, the denial can be fierce.

The False Safety of a Marriage Idol

God loves you too much to let you go through the rest of your life putting your hope in a marriage idol, even if that idol was designed to be a powerful reflection, and experience, of Him.

Being Undone by Life

One of my friends, who is struggling desperately in her marriage, was heavily on my mind yesterday morning. She hates the cynicism, the loneliness, and the ugliness she feels inside.  But, she also feels too stuck to do anything about it – and almost doesn’t even care anymore.

The Perturbed Heart Part 2

 If God is after your integrity, and He uses the people around you to soften the edges and knock out the junk, how do you navigate the toxicity without getting burned? Here’s how to embrace growth within relationships.

The Perturbed Heart, Part 1

Consider the inner chaos you are experiencing connected to another person or people. Whatever feelings they provoke in you, that’s what God is after. The closer the relationship, the deeper the emotional impact. These feelings reflect the deeper issues of your heart—your insecurities, fears, desires, and your ability to connect and love. It’s within this space that God wants to transform your life.

Shame’s Smoke and Mirrors

Living life out of your shame sabotages the things God puts in your life to bring restoration. Your shame tells you that you don’t deserve the gift He has laid before you, so you push it away by hiding behind a facade. Whether it’s pouring your energy into work or hobbies, getting lost in an addiction, or simply not pursuing the gift like the treasure it was meant to be, shame drives these behaviors.

The Secret to Inner Strength

The light of your personhood, the part of you that impacts the souls of those around you, flows out of His grace. This means it ultimately comes from Him, not from your own will or self-determination.  It is the visible evidence that fleshes out the reflection of His image in you.