Hey girl, let’s be real for a second. Have you ever felt like relationships, whether with friends, family, or even yourself, are way harder than they should be? Like one minute, everything’s great, and the next, you’re overthinking a text or questioning your entire existence because someone left you on read?
Yeah, same.
A lot of this comes down to how we learned to connect with people growing up. If your parents were emotionally supportive, relationships probably feel pretty natural. But if they were distant, critical, or too busy, relationships might feel confusing, stressful, or like a constant guessing game. You might:
• Feel anxious and constantly wondering if people are mad at you.
• Push people away because getting hurt isn’t on your to-do list.
• Be stuck in between craving connection but also kind of terrified of it.
And as if that wasn’t enough, social media and school throw even more chaos into the mix.
Social Media: The Highlight Reel That’s Lowkey Ruining Us
When life gets overwhelming, social media feels like the perfect escape. But instead of helping, it often makes things worse. Here’s why:
It’s One Big Illusion.
People only post their best moments. You’re comparing your bloopers to someone else’s highlight reel. Spoiler: No one has their life together, not even influencers with perfect feeds.
It Makes Friendships Feel Fake
If most of your convos happen through DMs, real-life conversations can start to feel…awkward. Plus, one ignored message can send you into a spiral of Do they hate me? Am I annoying? when in reality, they’re probably just napping.
Comparison Culture is Brutal
Why did she get more likes than me? Why don’t I have that many followers? Am I not funny enough? Pretty enough? The constant need for validation is EXHAUSTING.
It’s Lowkey Anxiety-Inducing
The pressure to be available 24/7, keep up with streaks, and post the “right” content is stressful. And don’t even get me started on the emotional damage of being left on read.
School: The Ultimate Stress Factory You Didn’t Sign Up For
As if social media pressure wasn’t enough, school comes in hot with even more expectations. You’re supposed to juggle:
• Grades ✨
• Extracurriculars ✨
• Social life ✨
• Future plans ✨
• Keeping your mental health intact ✨
If you feel like you’re barely holding it together, that’s because the pressure is real and totally unfair.
Practical Tips to Handle the Pressure (Without Losing Your Mind)
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- Recognize When Social Media is Toxic
Unfollow accounts that make you feel bad. Set time limits. And remember real life > Instagram. - Strengthen Real-Life Friendships
Call instead of texting. Have actual conversations. Surround yourself with people who make you feel safe and valued. - Set Boundaries
It’s okay to log off. It’s okay to not answer a text immediately. You are not required to be available 24/7. - Stop Chasing Perfection
You don’t have to prove anything. Your worth isn’t in your GPA, your likes, or how many people text you back. You are already enough just as you are.
- Recognize When Social Media is Toxic
You Are Enough: Embracing Your Worth Beyond Likes and Grades
If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or like you’re never doing enough, you are NOT alone. Social media and school make it easy to feel like you have to constantly prove yourself but, here’s the truth: you don’t!
Your value isn’t measured by numbers on a screen or letters on a report card. You are worthy, loved, and doing better than you think. ❤️
So, take a deep breath. Log off when you need to. Focus on real connections. And most importantly, be kind to yourself. You deserve it. If it feels more complicated than this, then let’s chat! Life can be much more chill, and you have the power to change it. God created you for so much more!
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See you in the next blog!!
